Thinking of the living

I was reading this book and a certain quote really stuck in my head. When people die, either naturally or of a disease, when they finally go and leave this world, and this is where the quote made me think "We grieve for the living," and it does seem true to me.
I thought back to when my grandad who died a couple of years ago of cancer (due to smoking) we all felt terrible for my grandad but ultimately i was thinking of my gran, how was she coping? I don't know what ide gain by writing this but ultimately that maybe its true. The fact it was such a small simple sentence made the impact on me so much greater, something so simple can easily never be said cos its to simple people haven't thought about it. Very rairley does anything stick in my head, and the fact that this did made it special. Also Ive always just assumed we grieve and its for the dead. If i think, i wasn't, yes its sad there gone, but there gone, there free now. My gran is still here and really i felt sad for her. The fact her life changed so dramatically. I wonder if other people realise that in fact they were grieving for the living without noticing it as well. I certainly was.